For months, I had a sense of something disturbing. I’d be watering the tomatoes, stomping to Caspar Babypants with a hundred toddlers in West Seattle, sketching #56 of a 75-day pen and ink challenge. “I’m fine, I’m fine, I’M FINE!” I heard myself chant whenever I felt the mist of dread. But that Saturday, as I watched my daughter, my son-in-law, and my little grandson sail away on the Alaskan ferry, Kennicott, whatever I’d been sensing began to flow into me like a midnight tide, or the dark water of tidal waves in dreams. It was heavy, exhausting as mourning, a blue that was almost black.
I thought I could not
go any closer to grief
From “Heavy” by Mary Oliver
Don’t get me wrong; I’m normally delighted when my children take advantage of opportunities that support their vocations and passions. My daughter attended school in France and England. We lived in Mexico. My son has taught in Taiwan for many years and it’s been a joy watching his life unfold. I love to travel! We get together when we can, both here and there. We Skype. We Facebook. I assumed it would be a simple Buen viaje! when my daughter cruised to the next port on her journey. But it wasn’t; my head and heart took off in opposite directions, like two clouds rubbing together and moving on. Was it because baby R, the grandboy I adore, was also going along for the ride? I tried to parse it out, to think about all of the advantages a move to Alaska would provide, but for days tears rained down, Poeian thoughts thundered, “Nevermore! Nevermore!” I couldn’t read or write, or even watch Shemar Moore strut through Criminal Minds reruns on Channel 3. I knew I needed a plan and would have tried to come up with one, but since we were out of gluten free beer I decided to meander.
Mazing my way through the Lettered Streets, I felt like a fruit fly on one of those beautiful indigo batik tablecloths from the Jade Market in Taipei. I had no idea where I was going, but the simple act of wandering took the edge off whatever was dragging me down. Outside the post office, I ran into a writing friend, possibly an angel, who had been through a similar experience when each of her two daughters drifted out into the world. As I listened and shared, I felt like she’d been tossed out of the clouds and placed right in front of me at the exact moment I really needed her. Miraculously, her loving energy seemed to displace so much of the dark blue within me that I decided to head for the library. I’d heard that one of my poems was on display near the entrance, but I hadn’t seen it yet.
An overgrown hydrangea hid my poem from view, though I finally found it under a layer of protective plexiglas. I read it quickly to myself, and was about to walk on when I turned around and saw that a grizzled old man smoking a Camel was blocking my way.
“That one yours?”
“Yeah, it’s mine,” I told him, trying not to inhale the smoke or his strong coffee breath.
“Read it to me. I ain’t never had a poet read to me before. You could be the first.” He pinched the lit end off his cigarette, threw it on the sidewalk and put the rest into the pouch of his black sweatshirt. It had a silver fern on it and a few paint stains like the one R had donated to the Goodwill. The man pulled the hydrangea back until sun bounced down on on my poem like a spotlight.
“Okay,” I told him, “if you’re sure.”
“I’m sure,” he said nodding his head.
I read soft and flat, afraid of being heard. On the last word, which should have been “ecstasy,” I whispered, “indigo.”
“Start over,” he told me, his face on fire. “Read it like you heard it when you wrote it. Read it like it’s still in your heart and trying to get out. Go on.”
“Who are you?” I asked him, but he just glared at me like my old piano teacher Mr. Tishkov, who had rainbows of sweat under each armpit and smelled like dirty socks. I swear I saw rainbows in that old man’s eyes just then, and noticed that indigo was only one of their colors. The darkest one. Red, orange and yellow, green and blue and violet…had I forgotten about those? Maybe I didn’t have to be stuck in an indigo funk when there were rainbows and poetry and an old man who took a moment to enjoy them with me.
This time, I howled my poem like an Alaskan wolf singing to the aurora borealis. A few street people hanging out on the library steps even stopped talking, and when I was finished they gave me a round of applause before they went back to their conversations. The old man relit his cigarette butt. He told me I could call him Joe and that I was a good poet. I thanked him for the magic, and danced through the library’s glass door and straight back to a search computer where I typed in “indigo” and found an amazing book by Jenny Balfour-Paul, which I’ve just about finished, if you’re heading down to the libe.
I went closer,
And did not die.
had His hand in this.
From “Heavy” by Mary Oliver
Special thanks to Mary Gillilan and Joe for taking the time.
Oh so poignant and beautiful my blue friend. I hear you, I feel you… I’ll be here next week, as my boy and girl leave again. Hugs. xo
You’re a love, Dawn. Thank you. The good news is that I’m flying north next week for a couple of weeks and am feeling better, letting the wave roll over my back, holding my breath. XO
Do NOT hold your breath… breathe, breathe some more, and then breathe deeper. xo
That is one cool,groovy story—freaking crazy! What are the chances an interested wandering guru in drag would be standing in your way at that exact moment you had decided to be directed towards your own work?! Damn—i love this piece–how deep it is, and how it flows and rubs my own soul against the clouds, and how it speaks to a larger mystery at hand—within the five fingers of our own, perhaps…..yet always, just beyond the grasp, beyond our own control—three cheers to you for being so damn open! Fantastico, Susanissima!
Gracias, jdawg, you made my day. There’s definitely an abundance of magic and mystery when the veil is moved aside even a crack. In the case of Joe, he yanked it right off of my head. As soon as I left the library, I picked it up off the ground and stuffed it into my backpack, just in case. XO
The color of that veil—did it perchance happen to be a shade of indigo?
Indeed it was, dawg. Strange how attracted I am to that dark color.
Dawn, I am breathing and will breathe.
Ayyyy Susana. El color verdadero del corazón de la abuelita no es rojo, pero azul crudo. Cada vez que salgan los nietos de nuestros brazos, sufrimos una herida grande, profundo. Abrazitos…
Gracias, amiga. Tú eres una mujer sabia. xoxo
“Mazing my way through the Lettered Streets, I felt like a fruit fly on one of those beautiful indigo batik tablecloths from the Jade Market in Taipei.” -I wish the patterned I am on now were as exotic as a batik table cloth; I think its a boring red/white check. 😉
Susan you always find your feet. Something/someone watches over you with much love!
Thank you, Boosie. You know, everything ebbs and flows. It’s a perpetually changing pattern in which we sometimes find our feet… and sometimes our wings.
It can be difficult for those of us who live in Alaska to be away from our families in the Lower 48. My sons live in WI. I don’t have grandchildren yet, but I know that once I do become a grandmother, Alaska Airlines will be getting a lot more business. I am always thankful for Facebook, texting, and Skype. I hope you will have the opportunity to visit Alaska in all seasons – even though Spring/Summer/Fall usually merges into one.
Thanks so much for your comment, Susan! I hadn’t considered the issue of being separated from our children in the Lower 48, but of course it would be equally challenging. You’re so right about Alaska Airlines. Soon after I wrote this post, I flew up to Fairbanks and spent a couple of wonderful weeks with my daughter and her family. It really helped to ease my mind. Soon we will be flying back for nearly a month and I can’t wait. Alaska is growing on me! All the best.
wow! I love this so much. What a gorgeous story of the man asking you to read to him! Is that poem here on your blog somewhere? I’d love to read it too…
Well, BIT, I’m so pleased you enjoyed Indigo Blues and also appreciated the precious man who made me read twice. Here is a link to the poem. Just go there and find me under Walk Winners as Susan Chase-Foster, then click “On Being a Squirrel” and you’ll be able to read it. All the best! http://boyntonpoetrycontest.wordpress.com/winners/